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ruffa gutierrez don’t mock the sanctity of marriage. You said in your interview that getting married twice at the same time….people do it all the time. No Ruffa the only person I know who is a bygamist is you. Please keep quiet for a while and let people in PI and abroad forget what you said and what a liar you are. Press release now will do you more harm than good. Gretchen is doing fine. She’s quiet and hope to God she will not grant you an interview…You are the most materialistic person in PI movielandia. Didn’t you say in your website this? “Don’t be a person that you are not, men don’t like that.” Well, you are exactly that. You described yourself very well. Learn how to be humble and you should show your remorse. YOU ARE SO ARROGANT…
Here’ a write up that I find so interesting:
Here’s a write up that I found it so interesting and I want to share it to your readers:
On Ruffa’s recent acts of publishing images from her so-called domestic life in Turkey: Images for many are evidence enough to back up a claim. I believe that she’s hoping to ’save face’ and convert enough of those that she could to make it appear that she is after all, not that bad.Many of us who grew up grounded with a catholic or any other religious background know the line we cross when we’ve done bad or good. We know when we lie that its wrong. We know when we help others w/o thinking of ourselves, its a good thing and it makes us feel good in return. Ruffa has become what she is, I believe because of the totality of the bombardment in her psyche of the need to be ‘IT girl’, to be ‘famous’ and to not ’sell pots and pans’. Judging by what her mum can do in public, can you begin to imagine what happens in close doors in their household? Note the fact that she tried to defy her once, to be free of this constant bombardment ng malakalye na pagsasalita, ng masyadong matapobreng pag uugali. Kaso eh she understand why her mum is doing so, kasi she’s been with her while they suffered in the US. Note how Ruffa tries so hard to appear ‘upper class’ and ’sosyal’ with the way she speaks. May twang. For her speaking and acting the way rich people do in the movies and in her scripts should be enough to create that ‘change’ in her person. Kasi she’s playing a role for her public, the ‘princess role’ she’s always wanted when she was a kid. She forgot that it also takes education, finesse, an enlightened mind and real grace. Marming noveou rich din naman sa mundo, the difference is for many who came into their fortunes, they worked for it and are seeking no public adulation or approval to say that they are ‘in’. Like Gretch, Ruffa has to mention or say what she wears or what she can afford because for her money-fueled mind, such means approval. Kasi for her if they can afford such, they must be happy. Think of all the social climbers you know and of all the poor mothers out there who constantly remind many daughters of so and so’s house or car because her husband was rich or because she did good. Her mum#s incessant nagging of a quest for wealth has made her blind to whats really important in life. After all, mother knows best and ruffa’s life has been lived through movies, tv shows and public scandals. It is now so ingrained in her it cannot be separated. Yes, happy mango, I believe that she is a sociopath, an addict to the lure of the limelight. So whilst we pity her or laugh at her efforts, in her mind she believes that our opinion doesnt matter,she will spin and spin and milk her drama for all it’s worth until she even believes it. A psychiatrist wont do her good. Its like trying to reason with a suicide bomber.This is her life: criminality, intrigues, limelight, scandal, money and fashion. For her there is no such thing as embarassment and shame. She doesnt care about her nation, she only cares about her self, the one she is preserving from the probability of selling pots and pans again. You have gotten a glimpse of this when she brutishly declared, ‘So What?!Everybody does it.’ regarding her bigamous marriage to D’aloia. See? Her father was having affairs and other families left and right. her mum at one point too. People in her world, showbiz does. We cant expect her to play with our moral rules because she wont recognize it.We have wonderful Pinoy celebs who are morally upright who give us ‘dangal’ - theres always Donita, Lea,Lani Misalucha. I am even very happy for and proud of our adopted celeb, Yari Torres who handled her big divorce with Marc Anthony because of Jlo with Grace and never said and says a bad word about him despite her hurt. Where’s Yari now? In Hollywood having just finished 2 seasons (I think) as lead of a premiere Lifetime TV series oppositte a very yummiable hunk who looks like Clive Owen.Yari is all over tinseltown attending the Emmy’s and is spokesperson for Walmart’s take on H&M’s designs via Metro7.If there was one person who could have had the limelight due to divorce, it’s Yari because JLo was the other woman. Now, that’s grace. After all, she was Miss Universe at 18.
On Yilmaz PI Fame Obsession - The Kurds in Turkey are a ’silent minority’. Even their first Female Kurd President in 1993 Tansu Ciller acknowledges this but you see, Turkey is a country very much divided by ethnic relations and changes wont happen soon, that is, acknowledging the Kurds as equal citizens with those who are really ‘Turkish’ because of their tendencies to form alliances with the militant groups across the border in Iraq and their effort to try and buy influence in regional governments across Turkey. Because of their non-political voice, they hoped to buy local governments which resulted in backlashes vs. the Kurds as a ‘people’ displaced in Turkey. Sila ang ‘hudyo’ ng sarili nilang relihiyon. The degree of Turkish inacceptance of the Kurds range from mild reproach to aggressive social displacement. marami sa mga Kurds na bagong dayo na refugee galing Iraq ay binabalik sa border, kahit na mamatay. This has been recently brought to attention when the Turkey EU membership was raised and this is one of the many reasons why Turkey is very much not acceptable to the rest of the EU. Now, how does this affect Yilmaz? His father seeing no other hope but to commit himself to criminally questionable enterprises has become one of the most notorious Turkish drug lords and with avail, he is noted by some to be ruthless in his dealings. Therefore, their family is shunned by the general Turkish public and sought after not just by the Turkish government but the Interpol to pay for their crimes. His father was lucky to have just recieved a ten year sentence.His marriage to Ruffa gave this criminal his first taste of Public admiration. In PI he is admired for his ‘achievements’, ‘good looks’, ’success’ and ‘wealth’. Like Ruffa, it made him feel ’special’. He found these group of people, toally hospitable and unjudgemental of him without having to prove himself, without being judged as a criminal and a minority. Sa Pinas, naging instant star siya, prinsepe ng prinsesa. Its the total oppositte of what he is viewed as in his home, in his nation. I believe that for awhile he let his penelope lie to the Philippine public because he was caught up in the delusion too. But then his criminal nature, his muslim grounding and his tendency to take violent control of his various businesses took over and there is nothing more embarasingly deadly than having a Christian wife fool you in front of your nation and hers. if they end matters, I dont think that he will ever stop thinking of his ‘positive fame once’, loved by a multitude who saw beyond his ethnicity and skin colour and put him up a pedestal. They could have been, Ruffa and Yilmaz each other’s best friends, sort of a Bonnie and Clyde.Theyre deviants who now have turned againts each other and its a destructive process. They will use all arsenal they could nevermind that people will be hurt, never mind the effects on the Pinoys, on the many people in their lives, hell even on the Christian-Islam issue. From people with no morals, expect nothing less.
(ay ayan naglecture na naman ako, pasensiya na at when I have a train of thought, the wiritng just goes on).
said misskopinas on Jun 18, 2007 at 6:11 PM
And here’s another:
Hi Lilie,
I am taking up my MA studies in Sociology at Human Geography ngayon.I just finished my Postgrad Diploma in the same field. Suerte ko nga kasi ang mga kasabayan ko ngayon ay military, medical at pulisya ang field, pero puro research. Here in the UK yung gobyerno nila makes use of the studies of their social scientists para maexplain ang mga nangyayari sa kanilang sambayanan at makahanap ng paraan para malutasan. Hindi pa naman ako eksperto pero marami akong natututunan. Graduate ako ng U.P. Diliman at ang background ko ay Kasaysayan at Sosyolohiya kasi naniniwala ako that we can learn a lot from looking back into the past and understanding how and why people behave and think the way they do. Ang pagaaral ko ay suportado ng British Army and I am doing my work with them now. Katulad ng maraming OFWs I feel the need to be updated sa pangyayari sa Pinas. Its my home too. And like the majority, we also understand na whether we like it or not, our actions dito sa ibang bansa ay tinitingnan bilang representation ng Pinoy.Pero mas lalo na kung celebrity. We had a Turkish-British officer na nagtanong sakin a few weeks back re:Ruffa and asked how she was like. Ako naman eh I’ve been kind of knowleadgeable about what she is and what she does and I said the best I could (She’s a Filipino-actress/beauty queen is all). I asked bakit siya nagtanong and he said in the Turkish circles many are talking about a Kurdish-druglord’s son having been tricked by her through bigamy and many Muslims are very unhappy about that kahit hindi nila alam ang estorya. Even if their rules allow for polygamy on the husband, women are looked down on such acts to the point of being killed. Kawawa si Rufing pag tumuntong ng Middle East o Islamic country yan because even if her husband was a suspected criminal, iba ang tingin ng mga fanatical muslims sa kanya. Sa kanila eh parang minolesta ang kanilang relihiyon. nevermidn na enemy nila si Bektas, hindi nila titingnan yun pero of course theyre going to hold the guy accountable as well. Both Rufing and her husband are being scrutinized by the Turkish, indeed the muslim public who have heard of the story. Many say that they both deserve what they got, lalo na sa mga Liberal-minded Turkish na ‘modern’ ang pagpapalaki. Like Pinoys and the Chinese, Turks are everywhere around the world too looking for opportunities. if there is a Kebab or a Doner place near you, chances are, it’s Turkish owned.
I would be able to look into Yilmaz manic-control issues if I had a raw data of written or recorded text on his life. Sadly, there isnt much except for his so-called ‘playboyish’ lifestyle before Ruffa, his love for expensive things, and his father’s Criminal Record and business interests. The Kurds are a minority in Turkey,they fled from part of Iraq and Iran during the height of those countries’ war and many more did from Iraq after Saddam tried to kill them using bio-weapons. Kurdistan, a northerly province of Iraq is currently one of their most peaceful right now and relatively progressive economy-wise dahil they have Iraq’s richest oil fields. My personal opinion is that their yield is one of the reasons of the Iraq war pero thats another story. They want independence from iraq but both the Shia’s and the Sunni’s wont let them, kasi nga yung yaman sa Oil halos nasa kanila. Pero nung time ni Saddam hindi pa fully realized yung potential. Pero if we assume that the Bektas family ties are from that promise, perhaps we can have an inclination of the how and why and what kind of operation the Bektasses do. but mind you, Bektas, like Jones and Smith are a million a pop katulad ng ating mga Santos at de la Cruz. Its a huge clan but such is the thing practiced in the Middle East and most of the muslim word because for them having kids is a blessing. They are archaic this way, theirs is a patriarchal practice seeing the men as the leaders and they can do with their women what they will. They share the same traits with Orthodox Judaism. Ganun din ang mga hard core na Hudyo, sige anak ng anak. Kaya nga marami sa Israel inis sa hardcore na Hudyo kasi talagang old testament yung practices nila.Pero it has a base. You see, Mohammed prior to his enlightenment was a rabbi of the Jewish faith. He was subject to the Rabbinate in jerusalem but he rebelled. Before he used to pray towards jerusalem, until he was excommunicated by the Rabbi council sa Jerusalem at binuo niya ang Islam, which if you look closely is a radical take on the Old testament’s an eye for an eye belief. Ganyan kasi ang Middle Eastern culture eh, warlike. Yung decendants ng babylon na ngayon ay Iraq eh mga Sumerians, Assyrians, Babylonians, eventually, when Iran took power — Persians. Their ancients worshipped Marduk, the God of War kaya nga eh nasa genes nila ang survival by violence. War is usally fought by the male, hence, patriarchal system. I learned most of this while I was studying in Israel in ‘02. I was a little confused about Faith and the conflict it creates at pati uncle ko na arsobispo eh medyo sa akin hindi sablay ang mga sagot kaya I decided to learn it myself. Ive met a lot of Palestinians and Israeli-kurds while studying in Universita tel-aviv. They all seem to be good in their own way, but if you are not going to see them from their culture, mahirap sakayan o intindihan ways nila.The ottoman empire was the Turkish empire that enveloped most of Middle east including parts of Egypt and North Africa and Europe prior to the British Empire, hence, talagang written in blood na ang pagiging Muslim, traditional-stone-age values ng karamihan. Isipin mo ang background na ito ng Populace ng South West Asia (Middle east tawag natin). Ngayon, isipin mo ang background ng Kurds at ang rise to wealth ng mga Bektasses. Anong klaseng kombinasyon kaya at pundasyon meron si ex. mr. Rufa? Di niya kasalanan ang maging kung ano man siya ngayon, he was shaped by his circumstance. buti nga at nasa Turkey siya at pamilya niya because they are a gate to Europe for many cultures since the very ancient times (remember Marco Polo’s silk road).Pero yun rin ang rason kung bakit Turkey is the chose gateway to Europe for many for the smuggling of drugs from Afghanistan, Myanmar and parts of Asia na porducers nito, lalo na heroin. Katulad ng mga Hudyo (jews) ang Kurds ay dati rati bilang displace immgirants walang legal na ‘jobs’ kaya most of the time, because of their connections to Kurdistan and Iran, sila ang nagiging ‘handlers’. Maraming Turkish-Kurdish and nasa business ng money-laundering at ang paglinis ng pera through proper investments. Kung ito ang business mo, talagang marami kang pera pero ang buhay mo naman ay hindi segurado. Hindi rin sure ang life na ganyan eh, unless otherwise Sicilian Mafia ka, kasi sa Sicilians, they practice the justice of Omerta and they help out each other kahit enemies sila for a common business goal. The Kurds kasi are not that organized because like Pinoys, they have their own sense of crab mentality eh. Yung bakit ikaw ang kailangang boss? Notice how in the middle east walang middle ground, yung leaders eh diktador or Hari or Prinsepe unless it’s Israel? To be super-king sa kultura nila you either have to be a Saddam or a Marcos kaya nga si Marcos natin eh ideal leader sa kanila.
Hence Yilmaz - to have a grip on his ‘business’ he has to be a control freak constantly looking over his back for bullets. If he doesnt, he’ll end up like Johnny Depp’s character in Blow and his Penelope (Ruffa) will leave him. Kaso nga lang eh etong ruffa niya ay ginago siya. She knows what she will have to go through should the truth of her first marriage come out, at natakot. Hindi sa asawa niya kundi sa general muslim patriots na ayaw gaguhin ang relihiyon. Isipin mo yung Swedish Cartoons that featured Mohammed, di ba nagkaroon ng global na reaksiyon, pagsunog ng flags, pag protesta sa streets, mob sa labas ng embahada. Kung si Yilmaz eh totoong businessman yan at walang bahid-kriminal naku, nag declare na seguro ang fanatical Muslims at J.I. or Al-Qaeda types ng bombing sa maynila. Kaya nga ikinagalit ko ng husto. All it takes is for a small misunderstanding that involves religious and cultural differences sa mga fanatics eh at magsusucide na sila. That woman, Ruffa, is a walking social disaster and could have potentially created a reason for orthodox-muslim prejudice against Filipinas. She has to understand what she has done. Di bale na magkabalikan sila ng pareho niyang criminal na asawa. Pinag laruan niya ang dalawang relihiyon that in another lifetime created the Crusades, the bloody war between Muslims and Christians over Jerusalem and has given rise to todays# modern terorrists.
Although we have to learn to co-exist with one another in the world, each race, each national culture has a breaking point. All it takes is one stupid and arrogant self-important character and a lot of misunderstandings. O ayan, nag lecture na ako. =)
said misskopinas on Jun 18, 2007 at 8:42 AM
misskopinas
A small analysis of the creation of a delusional Psyche: Ruffa GutierrezThe forces that shaped her becoming a self-serving criminal
I. Beginnings-
Ruffa was born to Parents who at that time eh namumulubi sa States where they migrated for a better life sana. Kaso nga her dad’s restricted by immigration & education issues to hold any managearial or exec position in a company and both her mom and dad then were limited by the language. Coz they were used to a life of fame sa Pinas, mahirap lunukin magbenta ng kaldero from having people idolize you. I assume at that point in their lives mom & daughter got close going house to house para mabuhay. Nothing is wrong with that, selling pots & pans is honest enough. Pero coming from a high pedestal at malaki ang ambisyon, mahirap yun sa mom niya seguro, na-feel ng kid. Im sure affected rin sila sa affluence ng neighbours o ng mga Middle class families sa palikid. As evidence of this one could see the absence of that part in her life sa website niya. Their life back in the US prior to migrating back to Pinas to rejoin showbiz is never talked about—-parang ikinahihiya. Unlike Leizl & Albert Martinez, theirs is an open book. One can only imagine the kind of conversations and musing mom and daughter had together, like — “Alam mo anak, sa Pilipinas importanteng tao tayo,” or “Iba na pagmayaman, we can enjoy designer bags and have servants,”. Things have to go really bad for a whole entire family to give up hope of ever making it in the U.S. I assume it did. One could easily assume that seeds of a fantasy-future life began to form in young Ruffa’s head where she’s got everything she wants without having to share (marami silang magkapatid sa mom pa lang niya, pano pa sa iba) with others or having to face the other family of your dad and share with them too. Psyche-wise, I believe this has planted in her mind that to have a happy life, you need wealth, which back then they didnt have.
2. Engaging with Fame and Fortune-
Ruffa’s mum & dad were not big stars, they were your usual artista. Today seguro you can compare what eddie had with, say, the fame Dennis Trillo has and the fame her mom had was questionable, she was a bold star after all and girls like her then came aplenty. That’s why she held on to Eddie, one gets more of a name when linked with a more favorable star.Coming back with Ruffa and the twins allowed them to enter showbiz easy what with the availability of work for child stars. Actually, mas may trabaho nun ang mga bata kesa sa parents hence anabel’s evolved role: manager and stage mum. Since showbiz is the only business they know its where they went enlisting the help of Kuya Germs and Inday badiday to get back. And get in Ruffa did. She was toast of the town, but she wasnt the only one. That’s Entertainment meant competition and back then, Carmina Villaroel, Aiko and even Greta were taking on roles she wanted, from teen to mature. To shine out in the Industry she learnt one thing: court intrigue. She talked like her mom and added the ’sosyal’ English twang so as to be considered ‘in’. For actors and actresses, they have to internalize a role to be seen as such, the teen Ruffa really did. To erase any other insecurity she had she took on a persona ‘beautiful princess’ that needed worshipping. She went into modelling and constantly promoted herself. Its true that at one point in time she got tired of it, hence, the elopement with Da silva, pero one can only go so much on starry-eyed love. She didnt want to lose her ideal life of fame becuase for her, oppositte non ay pagbenta ng pots and pans. The next Ruffa we saw tried hard to outshine people in acting, even doing ‘ST’, what other choice did she have? Then the MMFF Scam happened. Kasi w/o that recognition, you are just another actress. Yun ang gold standard ng artistang Pinoy. She wanted it so it didnt matter that what they did was criminal. Her psyche demands her to work at not being poor or being ordinary so laws be damned. When you see your mum and your manager and others agree to do the crime, for a teen, then it isn’t.Big mistake and bigger scandal. At that point her mom and her found out that scandals dont really sell if it shows your real character and found themselves not needed by Pinoy showbiz again.
3. Risking Dignity for Money-
What would you do when despite the fact that you know your beautiful the public despises your character and you need money? You turn to one of the oldest professions in the world. It need not be said what it is. Its enough that covertly beauties from Pinas showbiz who find themselves out of work come in plane loads to fill the Sultan’s harem. After all, is he not one of the richest men in the world? This went on until Maceda got wind of it. And some were proven, but, for the public to swallow her own guilt was hard, wasnt she that sweet teen girl selling us the toothpaste na kumkutitap? Pinoy pity reigned. Actually, I believe it was more of the shock of such an act from a girl who already did that scam that it was hard to believe. So Pinoys gave her a chance, kasi, bad image sa atin kung totoo. And she redeemed herself, she went top 3 in that international Beauty competition. At that time, it seemed, all the risks were worth it. She got invited to the South of France, faced international celebrities with the jet-set life. Since she got a taste of it, and she had gotten away with so much, one can only assume that nothing seemed impossible for her. She has proved time and again that rules do not apply to her.
4. Jealousy-
And then Donita made it Big. Simple, God-fearing and intelligent Donita Rose, the one Ruffa befriended sa That’s dahil naawa siya coz Donita then was a ‘probinsiyana shy type na kid ng isang American at Pinay na nagmeet sa US Base diyan sa Luzon. She’s always felt superior at mas importante sa kay Donita kahit hindi man niya sabihin, but Donita became THE IT GIRL not only sa ‘pinas kundi sa buong MTV ASIA countries. Donita even made a movie with David Hasselhoff. Donita had commercials and ads everywhere and her own Drama show in Singapore on top of her MTV Asia guestings. The worst blow was when Donita was invited to watch the races with the Queen of England. Of course friend niya yun but one only has to look back into Ruffa’s personal history of wanting to be ‘it’ and getting it all na talagang nakakadismaya ang makita na the wildest possible hippest international stardom overnight could go to Donita, who did not join any beauty contest, who wasnt that sensational, who partied with her naked.people from China, Thailand,India, Vietnam, Korea, japan, Indonesia….everyone knew who Donita was. Bigay dangal sa Pinas at mahal talaga ng tao. Perhaps their friendship was real, but then again career-jealousy can happen in any friendship, so she, Ruffa needed to do something ‘international’ too.
5. Hollywood & Bektas-
To work in the US, you need the proper papers. To work in Hollywood you need the Screen Actors Guild card, and its hard to get it. So quietly she married Rich D’aloia with the consent of her parents knowing as it is a business move (her parents knew aboout this because they were aware of her career moves and gave consent) it is okay. Marriage for Ruffa’s parents is a grey area. After all Eddie and Ms. Rama are not and even if they did before in the U.S. they divorced too at one point. The US for them became a haven for secrets and Pinas is there ‘pakitang tao’ venue, living their lives like it was staged. D’aloia for obvious reasons ‘helped’ ruffa in allowing her legitimate reason to work in the US, she was wife of an American after all. She hosted cable shows. Note: Cable shows. And when she did well, she managed to have a stint, a small one, to cover cannes for small cable networks Century Productions is selling to. Century productions is a small production company for tv, it is not like Paramount, Universal nor does it have the reach of MTV. But for the Pinoys in Pinas who do not know this, its a big deal, coz Ruffa said so. But Americans do not know of her at all, even Pinoys in America do not. Whilst Joey Mead (Pinoy Model, and Channel V vj) was spokesperson for Head and Shoulders in America, Ruffa was interviewing boxers for cable tv. Then in Cannes, she was given what could have been the biggest bonanza against selling pots and pans for the rest of her life: Mr. Bektas. The poor guy was smitten if all her stories be true. Since he was rich, very very rich, she vacationed with him in the South of France, shopped with him in Milan, lunched in London and went to European Events where the wealthy like him congregate. Compared to what she makes in her ‘hollywood career’, Mr. Bektas can over a hundred fold so it was easy for her to leave everything for ‘love’, where hardwork is not needed to beget the jetset lifestyle. She had it: she bought him a tv station, gave her extrvagant shopping sprees, houses, cars, a closet as big as an ordinary Pinoy’s House. It was publicized, from wedding to everyday happening. It was big. Her dream of affluence beyond wealth came true.
6. A Criminal Legacy
Then all that in one night came crashing down. When ruffa was a little girl, she was taught to do all to reach the top, get rich, really really rich. Her mom taught her na wag maging PG. When your in the position of just winning that race, you wouldnt think if your brakes would work coz you just wanna get there. She forgot that she was a married woman. How could she forget that easy: it was simple, for her marrying D’aloia wasnt really ‘marriage’. It was a career move. In her mind Yilmaz was her ‘husband’ and used his name, because in that manner her ‘entry’ to the jet set would be legitimized. Never mind that she’s fooling Yilmaz, or her Ninongs and Ninangs or the people that ate up every single bit of her story. Point is, at that time, she felt she had won over life. She got over the MMFF Scan, the Brunei-escort issue, even her parents are getting away with all sorts of legal wranglings in Pinas. How could her marriage with Bektas possibly go wrong? he hid the true nature of Bektas’ life, the issues that surrpund his family. Only what she wants come out. No matter that his family’s money is questionable, no matter that his is a world of seeming violence. She changed her religion without thinking overlong about it. It would be okay if this was all for ‘love’. But her psychological motivation says so otherwise. In her endless search for Fame, fortune and life without selling Pots and Pans, what could have been a most wonderful life for a girl who, like anyone deserves happiness becomes a complete and utter disaster. Nevermind that her children are now illegitimate, never mind that her actions, supported by her family plunges so many people into misery, dragging a nation into Shame, making people around the world questioning a ‘Filipina’s, personified by her,sense of dignity and self worth. But then again, all these, religion, playing with people’s hearts and minds, using others, it does not compare to the emptiness and self-loathing created if one day, the reality of her actions become clear in her mind. one can only hope that that one day will not come, and that she could continue tricking herself into a false sense of being the victim of her own life. Whose to blame? many are, but there is always one whom she cannot get away from everytime she looks at herself in the mirror. Its a sad criminal legacy to leave to your loved ones, to people who believed in you, but most of all, to your children.
said prinsesa on Jun 15, 2007 at 7:59 AM
Dumadami na kaming anonymous sa blog na ‘to… cute kase pag anonymous ang arrive…
but sisters, know what, my weirdest thoughts about the whole brouhaha of ruffa and yilmaz is that
1. feb 16, yilmaz found out about ruffa’s previous marriage. of course there’s confrontation, and having the truth to face the husband and wife, so yilmaz has physically laid hands on ruffa which i believe could be slapping (of course who will believe the torture ek ek nya)
2. ruffa, having the knowledge of the law of muslims on marriage, really feared for her life. she knew so well that pugot-ulo ang katapat nyang parusa.. whether in turkey or philippines..
3. but of course, in the philippines she could create some scandals to minimize the issue of bigamy. her mother has been in the showbizness for over 20years, and those years was able to have her own clout such as jun lalin & co. so they magnify the issue of abuse to cover the bigamy issue
4. in between feb 16 to may 8, husband and wife are talking to each other that reach up to the point of ruffa choosing the words of annabelle than obeying yilmaz to go back to turkey… what does annabelle keep on telling ruffa, well about the movie “Not without my daughter”. annabelle too is worried and afraid because na uncover na nga sila.. dinaan na lan sa taray
5. so may 8, may i announce si ruffa thru ricky lo of their mutual separation… saying that there will no more statement to be issued… but alas, up to now hindi pa sila tumitigil
6. i think the issue of ruffa’s first marriage was first posted here and then it went full stream and lo and behold came out the truth that she indeed was married to richard daloia…
7. and what could be more embarrasing to this situation is that she married yilmaz without seeking first to dissolve the first marriage.. so, yilmaz now is the certified kabit … again how embarrassing… so fly naman sa US in the disguise of soul-searching and what did they search for? she filed for the divorce… how cunning this woman really is
8. and back to philippines, kung anu-anong kwento, kesyo me invitation sa kanya an CBS, look what happened after those press releases, nag-land sya as the formal replacement of kris aquino sa …. d’ buzz
9. so, after trash talk back and forth with yilmaz, yilmaz found himself uttering words of apologies. when this did happen? when rumors had it in the news that ruffa could be beheaded because of the sin of bigamy and that the muslim community is very angry at her… in my opinion, ruffa threatened yilmaz that she would go public via press conference that the father of yilmaz is really a drug lord… how can that be not so threatening? even if there is no truth to that, it is highly unimaginable to erase to the public of the impact it would bring especially to turkey… so yilmaz yield… so who is the abuser of the two now?
10. and this is really, really weird, all along ruffa claims that yilmaz is a very good provider(sometime in May), but come June she’s altering her statement and saying that yilmaz never sent a penny since february… my calculation is that ruffa and annabelle are hoping against hope that yilmaz would cough on them money, more so when they waged a high scale scandal, but still no money
and know what? they (ruffa and annabelle) end up signing contracts here and there for tv show, movies and commercials in the heat of it all. why not nga naman… because if the tide dies down wala na silang commercial value…
so if d buzz rating went down to an alarming level, walang problema kay ruffing because she has a contract… same goes with their other contracts
now i really want to believe that the main motive of this full-scale scandal is to raise money, either thru yilmaz or thru other means… seems that there’s some truth to the rumor that they really have to pay somebody they owe P8M?
said Anonymous on Jun 19, 2007 at 2:12 PM
I still have to see the picture of Yilmaz’s father. In all the pix that Ruffa send to Jun Lalin I saw selen, her daughter, mother in law, aunties etc etc etc BUT no father of Yilmaz. What gives? Nakakulong siya siguro…Oh by the way,I stopped subscribing these Filipino shows anymore. I don’t want to patronize LIARS…
RUFFA GUTIERREZ…A POSTER CHILD FOR EVERYTHING I WOULDN’T WANT MY DAUGHTER TO BE:
1. lack of moral and social values as evident by marrying turko while fully conscious of existing marriage to daloia. her only response to her apparent bigamous act is, “so what? everybody does it!” ….uh, really? EVERYBODY????….(does that mean everyone in her coo-coo planet is in jail?)
2. she has no respect for religion and its sanctity, just look at the way she converted from being a catholic to a muslim, from being a muslim to a christian… did she get somehow mixed-up that she thought religion is an accessory to her branded clothes?
3. she’s a pathological liar. the list of examples could go on and on…. let me just say her whole life existence is comprise of nothing but a great mountain of lies.
4. disregard for the law. she treats laws as if they’re just suggestions. it’s permissible to break every single one of them just as long as you don’t get caught, and when you do get caught–downplay the illegal act and bury it with explosive revelations that will not only get the attention of the government and some major movements but will compel them to offer solace and help. ……hmmmm…what was the illegal act now? i forget….
5. loves to toot her own horn. she claims to be an international star, but i’ve lived in the US 90% of my entire life and i haven’t seen any of her “international works”–not even on some odd channels on cable tv….uhm, bruta, being on TFC doesn’t count…. not to forget her overused 2nd princess world title, which really is a non-title, but hey, anything to add to her very, very, very short list of real accomplishments. hmmmm…i can’t think of any other accomplishments worth noting….no wonder she feels the need to praise herself for anything positive that happens to her no matter how minute…she needs to somehow outnumber all her shameful acts.
6. downright stupid. even with her so called “money” she can’t buy herself a good education. in a corporate america, she would be eaten alive. even mcdonald’s would turn her down. she could probably work the corners but with the way she paints her face with TONS of makeup she might end up being beaten up–guys might mistake her for a transvestite!
7. lastly, she’s a mockery to real women (read 1 - 6).
truly, there is nothing valuable about this girl. she still acts high and mighty in spite of all her baho, which really is a “sociopathic” trait. intensive psychotherapy is a waste for this kind of person. they will never learn from their mistakes, because to them, they are never wrong…. she needs to be prosecuted for being a bigamist–jail is the only place worthy of this person.
i have many friends and relatives in hawaii, seattle, and cali and they all share the sentiments, they no longer watch the buzz.
said mariaclara on Jun 19, 2007 at 4:16 PM
I cannot believe that there are some people that’s got the nerve to defend brutus and has a lot of excuses for her immoral and deceitful ways. Wala ba kayong mga mata, tenga o konsensiya? Magkano ba ang binayad sa inyo ng sinungaling at mukhang perang mag-inang yan?
To ABS-CBN: Anong klaseng TV station ba kayo. Anong klaseng serbisyo ang gusto ninyong ibigay sa taong bayan. Si Brutus ba ang gusto ninyong ipapanood sa aming mga anak at sa lahat ng kabataan. Wala kayong kuwenta. Puro pera lang ang mahalaga sa inyo. You are an instrument that destroys the moral fiber of our society. Wala kayong sense of responsibility sa taong bayan. To put a psychopath and a social disgrace in your TV programs is an absolute outrage.
Why do we abhor Ruffa (and her mother)? Let’s try to recap,
1)Ruffa publicly ridiculed and mocked the sanctity of marriage before the predominantly catholic population of the Philippines
2)Ruffa publicly humiliated her husband by admitting she was still married to another guy even after she married him – didn’t even divorced the other guy until 1 June 2007. This makes her a bigamist in every sense of the word.
3)Ruffa has mastered the art of weaving lies after lies and believe it to be her truth.
To to all of the above, Ruffa has never shown remorse for any wrongdoing – not a bit of apology nor understanding of the grave criminal and moral offense she has committed not only to the Filipino public but the teachings of the BIBLE that she claims to read for guidance – I wouldn’t even know for sure which religion she is practising … I wonder if they have put up a church of their own – The Church of Ruffa Gutierrez?
RUFFA: Well, you know what, thank God hindi legal ang kasal namin because I’ve been trying to keep myself sane. I’ve been trying to be quiet this past few months, this past years that I’ve been tortured by him. See, I’m trying to protect him, I’m trying to protect my kids, but know he’s already crossed the line.
Mango says: She’s thankful that her marriage to Ylmaz was not valid? Why then did she let her mother spend so much money for the wedding? I read once that her mother had to borrow money for the wedding. Lining up those ninangs and ninongs? Lahat nang mga taong ito pinagloloko niya. She knew from the very beginning that the marriage was a fluke? Hay naku Rufa nobody pities you dahil umpisa pa lang manloloko ka na.
And the real reason I left him is because all the time he hit me, he abuses me, he tortured me… The last time I left Istanbul in February, he tortured me and he hit me for 15 hours just because may nalaman siya tungkol sa akin.
Mango says: ruffa ruffa, you are full of S..T. You are contradicting yourself. Sabi mo wala kang itinago maski ano kay Yilmaz. Ano yung nalaman niya about you that gave him a reason to beat you up? A person, woman at that would not survive if Yilmaz really beat you and tortured you for 15 hours. Much more flying all the way to PI, stop over in Dubai at nakaya mo ito after Yilmaz tortured you for 15 hours? I never saw your hair became short either. Is it because of PANTENE SHAMPOO? You were very visible as soon as you arrived from Istanbul and not once did I see one or two bruises on you. You were guesting left and right and you are telling people you were tortured and beaten for 15 hours? I think Yilmaz is the one telling the truth here. You escaped because nabisto na niya ang mga pagsisinungaling mo at natakot ka baka kung ano ang gagawin sa iyo. This makes more sense to me than what you are telling the press. If I were you I would stop all the dramas and would cancel your interview tomorrow. This will do you more harm that good. Shut up for 6 months dahil wala kang makukuhang simpatya nang tao lalo na sa mga “patay gutom†who are supporting the careers of your brothers and yours too.
Number one, my life is an open book. He didn’t find me riding a camel in the middle of the desert. I’m Ruffa Gutierrez and I’m just an actress here in the Philippines. He can look on the Internet everything about me. Wala akong itinago sa kanya. He accepted me for who I am. He loved me for who I am.
Mango says: rufa ruffa…your life is not an open book that’s why people branded you as a LIAR. If your life is an open book you wouldn’t be tasting the WRATH of the people. You lie and then you lie some more to cover up the other lies. Everybody knows already that Yilmaz beat you up after that interview with the BUZZ. We, the readers and viewers are not BOBITA or BOBA (your mother’s favorite expression). So, that’s given. But tortured and beat you up for 15 hours continuosly? People will never buy that. Sa Airport pa lang there are already cameras.
BUTCH: Tutal binuksan mo na rin ang isyu ng torture. I’m just concerned, ano itong torture na ito?
RUFFA: Ang torture na ginagawa? Lahat ginagawa niya. Sinasaktan niya ako, binubugbog niya ako, pinutol lahat ng buhok ko, sinisipa ako, kinukulong ako sa cabinet, bine-belt niya ako, lahat!
Mango says: Okay, show some pictures and I will ask for your fogiveness or I will even kiss your feet.
BUTCH: Was there a reason behind yung kanyang anger?
RUFFA: Wala, sira-ulo lang siya. And I’m sorry for me to say this, but this is too much. Every day he’s like threatening me, threatening my Mom, threatening my Dad. It’s too much so kung may mangyari man sa akin, kung mamatay man ako, iisa lang ang may gawa niyan—si Yilmaz lang.
Mango says: There you go again, ruffa. You just said Yilmaz tortured and beat you for 15 hours because he came to learn something about you. Now, sira ulo na naman siya. Which is which? Make up your mind. Yan ang mahirap sa mga LIARS. Hindi mag-katugma tugma ang mga sagot.
BUTCH: Is that an admission ba na there was really a previous marriage?
RUFFA: When you’re young, you know, you do crazy things, you make mistakes. But as you grow older, you learn from these mistakes and you move on. When I married Yilmaz in 2003, I changed. I became a good wife and I became a good mother.
Mango says: You were no longer young when you married a 45 year-old guy. Give me a break. You were an adult.
And I think now, you know, what he’s doing to me, he’s trying to ruin my reputation because ayaw niya akong maging successful dito, ayaw niyang magkaroon ako ng trabaho, ayaw niya akong mag-move on.
Mango says: Nobody ruined your life but YOU and your mother. When your mother started calling people “patay gutom†Bobita, Boba to the extent of asking her money back from those people who owed her on national television and even named names your own mother ruined you and pray that this will not affect your brothers’ careers or else balik na naman kayo sa pagtitinda nang mga kaldero. You were not born rich…you were poor and when you eventually achieved those material things that you have right now naging matapobre kayong mag-ina. Social climber talaga kayo. Watch your video when you were in Vegas. Nakakahiya yung mga pinagsasabi mo. “Nasa harap ako nang pinaka sosyal na hotel dito.†You don’t say those things. The only people who would say such things are the social climbers. You are trying very hard to prove to the “patay Gutom†how rich you are even if you’r not. You have means. yes pero mas maraming mas mayaman sa yo.. I am one of them, to tell you the truth.
Ilang beses na siyang tumatawag sa akin, gusto niya akong bumalik sa kanya. Hindi ko na kayang bumalik sa kanya. Di baleng mamatay na lang akong single, mag-isa kasama ‘yong mga anak ko.
Ayoko na siyang balikan pa kasi tuwing naaalala ko ‘yong mga ginawa niya sa akin, hindi ko masikmura. And the reason why my Mom is reacting this way, di alam ng publiko, because the last fight that we had, sinabi ko sa kanya, sabi ko, ‘Ma, humingi ka na ng tulong kay President [Gloria Macapagal] Arroyo.’
Mango says: Oh, para ka namang si Teresa Carlson Farinas. Tried to ask help from the President. Tumalon ka na lang din kaya sa pinakamataas na building diyan sa PI. Yan talaga ang ma-drama.
I left my house, tumakbo ako, punung-puno ako ng dugo. Lahat ng mga yaya ko witness ko, lahat ng mga kaibigan ko, witness ko. Umuwi ako sa Pilipinas may blackeye ako, lahat ng legs ko punung-puno ng marks. Sinabi ko sa family ko ang totoong nangyari kaya ayaw na nilang tanggapin si Yilmaz. Iyon ang totoo.
Mango says: Ilan ba ang yaya mo? E bakit nung nasa Dubai ka you had to call your mother to come help you dahil hirap na hirap ka na dahil ang dami mong karga. Oh, I forgot you have 50 household helps. Yabang niyong mag-ina talaga.
BUTCH: Pero ito ba nagsimula nang ikinasal ka noong 2003? Immediately nangyari ba ‘yong torturing, ‘yong pagbubugbugan?
RUFFA: Hindi. Dati naman sinasaktan niya ako pero hindi ganun kagrabe. Mula noong nabaril siya, parang nag-take na siya ng mga anti-depressant. Iyong doktor pumupunta sa bahay, naging depressed siya. And then, doon nagsimula ang lahat, two years ago.
BUTCH: Sabi rin ni Yilmaz, kaya ka raw pumunta ng LA [Los Angeles] ay para kuhanin at dukutin ang mga papeles ng supposedly first marriage mo?
RUFFA: Alam mo, si Yilmaz nawawala na sa sarili niya. Araw-araw iba ang ano…one day he’ll call me and say bad things about me. Just last night, I was with friends, we had dinner sa bahay ni Gov. Chavit Singson—kasama ang Mommy ko [AnnabelleRama] at Daddy ko [Eddie Gutierrez], kasama ang mga kaibigan ko. Tawag siya nang tawag, sino daw lalaking kasama ko, sino daw ang mga kasama. You know, I mean, I’m sick and tired of this and I just wanna move on.
Mango says: I did not know you’re close to chavit. BWAHAHA
BUTCH: Kaya ka daw umuwi ng Pilipinas dahil alam mo nang alam niya na [kasal] ka na previously?
RUFFA: Kaya ako umuwi ng Pilipinas at umalis ako doon dahil binugbog niya ako for 15 hours. Noong na-meet ko Yilmaz, alam na niya ‘yong buong istorya ko, kung anong buhay ko, at alam niya ‘yong tungkol sa sinasabi niyang kasal-kasal na iyon dahil first month pa lang ng relasyon namin, noong 2000, alam na niya. Inamin ko na sa kanya lahat ang totoo.
Mango says: Yun naman pala eh. Why didn’t you come out clean. Mas credible and litanya ni Yilmaz dito. Sorry. And then I read once na “yung mga kalde-kaldero na hindi naman totoo†(for Fermin)Your mother admitted that recently through national television. Sinungaling ka talaga, Bistado kana ayaw pang umamin. Then during the interview with your mother about the caldero you cut her off. You did not want the people most especially Yilmaz to know that you were POOR did you. ruffa?
BUTCH: So wala kang itinatago?
RUFFA: Wala akong itinatago. I don’t need to hide anything. I think now, it’s clear. I’ve said enough. Ayoko na siyang balikan pa. And if he wants to make this ugly, then so be it. Ayoko nang magsalita. Tomorrow [June 10], magsasalita ako sa The Buzz and last na iyon.
BUTCH: This can get badly, sabi niya [Yilmaz], he will do everything to get the kids. Ano’ng binabalak mo ngayon?
RUFFA: No, the kids are gonna be with me because I took care of them, I’m supporting them. When I gave birth to Venice, he wasn’t even there. I’m the Mom and I can take care of my kids. He hasn’t sent me one single penny since February. I don’t need his money. I don’t need anything from him because I can support my kids.
Thank God, my Mom is there, my Dad is there, my family is there to support me. I have work and I can support my own kids. So hindi niya kayang suportahan ang mga anak ko dahil hindi naman siya nagbibigay ng sustento, apat na buwan na.
Si Yilmaz naman puro panakot lang iyan, e. Araw-araw tine-threaten niya ako, araw-araw nananakot siya. But, you know, everything that has to…regarding the custody of my kids, my lawyers will take care of that.
BUTCH: Ang sabi niya, maaari ka daw niyang kasuhan ng kidnapping dahil nailabas mo daw ng Turkey ang iyong mga anak.
RUFFA: E di kasuhan niya ako! See, you know, hindi naman ako ‘yong naglagay ng baril sa utak niya para ipadala ang mga bata sa akin. Kusang-loob niyang ipinadala ang mga bata sa akin. When I left in February, I left Istanbul alone. I left my kids with him and after ten days he sent the kids with me.
BUTCH: Ina-accuse ka rin niya na kapag tumatawag daw siya sa bahay ninyo ay hindi ka niya nakakausap at dahil wala ka raw sa bahay?
RUFFA: Kasi ayaw ko siyang kausapin. Pinapatay ko ‘yong phone niya. I don’t wanna speak to him anymore. Ang phone ko pinapatay ko because he calls me 55 times a day. He stresses me out, nagkaka-wrinkles na ako, pumuputi ang buhok ko. He’s [a] psycho, so every time he calls the house, pinapapasa ko lang sa mga katulong. At hindi ako gabi-gabing lumalabas at gabi-gabing lasing. Hello, excuse me?!
BUTCH: Ano ang message mo kay Yilmaz?
RUFFA: Wala akong message sa kanya, sana he’ll leave me alone. I hope he moves on with his life the same way that I’m moving on with my life.
BUTCH: Anong message mo sa family mo na talagang tumutok sa iyo all this time?
RUFFA: Sa pamilya ko, I’m proud to have a mother like Annabelle Rama. I’m proud to have a father like Eddie Gutierrez. They’ve been with me through this difficult time in my life. And he can say whatever he wants regarding my Mom, but my Mom will just [protect] me. And my Mom will never ever allow me to go back to him because nakita niya lahat ng mga pasa ko, nagpakuwento siya sa mga yaya ng anak ko.
And the reason why na hindi puwede tumira ‘yong mga anak ko sa kanya because they’re not safe in Istanbul with him—his reputation, his business. Hindi sila safe kasama si Yilmaz sa Istanbul.
Mango said: Reputation? Business? The kids are not safe there? So tell me ruffa, bakit galit na galit ang nanay mong bastos kay Dolly Anne? Why does your mother get so mad at her when she’s just doing her job? The news did not come from her originally. It came from a Turkey Newspaper. Suma total…talagang ubod ka pa ri nang sinungaling. I will never believe a sigle word you are going to say in that interview. Cry a river but NOPE and a lot of the “patay gutom†won’t either…
BUTCH: Message mo kay Lorin at Venice?
RUFFA: Wala akong message sa kanila dahil wala silang alam sa nangyayari. And I want to leave it that way.
Sana ho, ‘yong mga nakikinig ngayon sa akin—ang mga Pilipino, lahat ng mga nanay, lahat ng mga may asawa who’s gone through what I’ve gone through—sana po pakinggan ninyo ako, ako po ang Pilipino, hindi si Yilmaz. He’s from a different kind, he’s from a different breed.
Sa akin kayo maniwala, especially sa mga babae dahil babae rin kayo. Kung sinasaktan na kayo ng asawa ninyo—at hindi lang sampal at sipa—kapag tino-torture na kayo, nilalagyan na kayo ng baril sa ulo at tinututukan na ng baril…
I think my decision to leave him is the best decision I’ll ever make in my life because he will never change, he will only get worse. And I have to protect myself, my safety, and the safety of my kids. That’s why I’m in the Philippines now, this is where I’m safe and this is my home.
I hope all of you respect my decision and support me kung ayaw ko nang balikan ang asawa ko. Sana maintindihan ako ng mga tao.
Mango says: Who cares what you do next? NOT ME.
Movie actors and actresses should represent many pleasant hopes and many pleasant dreams to their viewers especially the teens who idolize them and not parading what they are wearing, telling their viewers how rich their husbands are, what bags they are wearing because they are teaching the children to be materialistic. ABS-CBN has moral obligations towards its viewers because there’s more to life than having those guccis, LV’s or Prada’s. But what did ABS CBN do? They gave a bigamist a contract who publicly announced that she’s married to Daloia while she married her another husband(kabit)and tell people that people do that all the time, a braggart, a certified LIAR, and a social climber, who has a palengkera mother who used to be a BOMBA STAR who tries to name those people who owed her money on National television, tries to steal money from Filipino people by having PNP’s as bodyguards through this equally immoral chavit singson and as if that’s not enough, The Buzz consultant made a pronouncement that ruffa’s fee is higher than Chris Aquino. Where’s the professionalism there? Well, I am glad that there’s a group here in San Jose (50 members) who are trying to lead the boycot of ABS-CBN because of their luck of delicadeza. We are trying to convince families to unsubscribe ABS-CBN and NOT to subrcribe ABS-CBN. It is so disgusting to watch this woman who has no talent at all and talks like a gay. She’s nothing compared to Chris Aquino.
Dear ruffa,
naging passenger namin si Yilmaz business class hiding towards to Philipines… alanganin pa kami mga pinay kong sya yun? oo nga sya kasi nakita ko sa TFC during my two days off here in UAE.
ruffa I think you your self you have to “refresh” kasi mahal ka talaga ni Yilmaz di hamak kong hindi ka nya mahal nako DAY marami pang makita sya maganda pa sa iyo mga Turkish Girl magaganda rin yong beauty talaga or Italian, spanish makakuha sya kong gustuhin nya peru really mahal ka nya.
Masabi lang namin na ikaw rin you have to change your self as well. tapusin mo na yong first marriages mo at mag pakasal kayo ulit sa Muslim no Big Deal kahit magpakasal sila ilang beses…para legal wife ka talaga. eager naman si Yilmaz mag pakasal sa iyo ulit para legal ang mga bata.
ruffa gusto ka namin and you know that matagal ka na hindi nag travel I guess kasi 4 times ka nag flight sa duty ko kaya i know you as my VIP passengers.
Ang mga foreigner like Yilmaz honest sila pag ayaw na nila ayaw na nila talaga…peru Girl ang Panalo ka you loved each other thats the POINT.
From: EK Staff
Malaking example ito sa mga Couples dyan kahit saan sa mundo ang ginawa ninyo ruffa sana toloy toloy na ito.
dapat mag pa counselling nga kayo kasi kulang lang kayo sa Advise… kasi si Tita Annabelle hindi nakapag advice yata sa iyo, “jokes”
Sana Ikaw ang sample ng mga kababaehan dyan sa pinas ang alam ko kahit dito sa UAE marami akong kakilala na masahol pa sa iyo ruffa pinay din sya at Arab from Egypt ang lalaki sinasakal sya naririnig sila ng mga kasamahan sa kabilang kwarto kaso lang wala kaming magawa paano kaya? pinagsabihan ko na ang babae sabi nya LOVED ko si Mohd. sabi ko commercial na ngayun hindi na Love ikaw lang ang nag Love sa kanya peru sya hindi ka nya Love.
from ek staff
Hay naku ruffa “I Believe in Karma” kaya ikaw pinangbayad sa kasalanan ng nanay mo kasi Mukhang datung si annabelle rama at ngayun ayaw na nya kay yilmaz kasi medyo LUGI ang business ni Bektas this time… obvious wala ng pera si Yilmaz kasi kong may pera yun ha! of course mag bigay ng sustento yun di bah?
At isa pa nag pakasal ka sa MUSLIM INING bakit Muslim ang pinili mo eh TYPICAL MUslim si Yilmaz yaki…tapus ikaw minahal mo sya Blood sticker than water Muslim mag pa Christian I dont think soo malabo in Islam rules or sharia rules …tanga ka pala eh hindi mo alam ang pinasok mo normal sa mga Muslim na mag selos pag ng sout kang ng ganyan micromini… ang babae sa kanila is Balot pati buhok hindi pwidi makita HARAM you got this word??? akala mo siguro susunod si Yilmaz sa Christian mo hababg minahal mo si Yilmaz ha..ha..ikaw ang talo day at huwag mong kalabanin ang mga MUSLIM…Boba ka talaga mana ka sa Ina mo Mukhang pera lagi sa bibig.
well , Ruffa You got what you wanted to have a life in abroad ,I guess is not as good as we expect right ? oh will we all learned on our own mistake , move on and do what is best for your kids and yourself..I been there and than there i guess I’m happy that i got divorce and start a new life .
To you Ruffa!
TIME has come! Trust that your decision is the most humane you could ever do now to your children especially to yourself!
YOU are truly respectable of your COURAGE to finally open up your innermost personal sufferings and painful past in Istanbul.
Regardless of your status as a person, a filipina celebrity or not, no one like y. b. has ever the RIGHT to abuse nor practice constant “domestic violence” to any woman in our own culture! And true love of a husband for us… means: “to protect and honor”. You honored him by keeping up with his psychopatic treatment for many years, converted yourself into a muslim woman, sufferred and hid everything from the filipino in trying to save what we call “marriage”……..you even forgot to respect yourself…….even to the point of him dishonoring you!! Enough is enough! Psychopaths are capable of anything…and its indeed very dangerous!
NOW, you are back home….safely back! LETS PRAY that you and your family will be protected–and remember this: YOU ARE NOT ALONE!
We will support you in your painful period of this tremendous traumatized-recovery. We do not expect you to always smile ……we too, can accept your true to life painful Past.
And this goes to all women, wives or filipino men alike, victims of domestic violence wherever you may be….end your sufferring—honor yourself, ask for help and be aware of your rights.
There is always semeone out there to help you! Thereof, we kindly appeal to Pres. Macapagal Arroyo to heed this call of abused women.
Im so sorry for you Ruffa! We know that in our country…women are respected, cared for by men and in some country women have literary “no soul”.
RUFFA, ALWAYS TAKE CARE AND GOD BLESS!